Human kindness is often given in the world in the form of uncertainty

     Hi, today, I would like to share about the interesting topic, namely "Human kindness is often given in the world in the form of uncertainty", the main reason why I choose that topic because many people expect what they do must be returned into profit, when they don't get what they expect, due to that question, some of them try to ask to themselves "Am I not good enough to receive more?" This question touches on the deepest aspects of human existence, from both philosophical and psychological perspectives, Below is a review of the concept of goodness and the phenomenon of selfless sincerity.

 

If we look objectively, the world does not always operate on a "input equals output" system in the short term. There are times when a person does good yet receives injustice in return. However, in psychology and sociology, there are concepts that explain how goodness works:

 

- Indirect Reciprocity: The person you help may not repay you directly, but your actions build a positive reputation that makes the surrounding social system more supportive overall.

- Character Domino Effect: Consistently doing good shapes a more resilient cognitive structure and personality. The "reward" in the world is often not material, but rather inner peace, better mental health, and life satisfaction.

 

Psychological Perspectives on Selflessness (Altruism)

 

In psychology, behavior that helps others without expecting external rewards is called Pure Altruism. Here are several psychological perspectives on such individuals:

 

1. Intrinsic Motivation and Autonomy

People who do not expect rewards typically have strong intrinsic motivation. They act because the action itself is deemed valuable, not due to social pressure or incentives. In Self-Determination Theory, this is the highest form of autonomy, where happiness stems from alignment between one’s actions and personal values.

2. Helper’s High

Biologically, when a person does good, the brain releases endorphins and dopamine. This phenomenon is called the Helper’s High. Psychology suggests that those who do not expect external rewards actually receive an "internal reward" in the form of relief and happiness that significantly reduces stress levels.

3. Ego Maturity

From psychoanalytic or developmental psychology perspectives, the ability to give without demanding anything in return is a sign of stable ego maturity. Such individuals no longer feel "lacking" or "thirsty for recognition," so they give from a place of inner fullness (acting from abundance).

4. Meaning-making

Existential psychology views helping others as one way humans create meaning in a life that often feels chaotic. By being useful to others, a person gains a sense of purpose, which is a core pillar of mental health.

 

An Aspect to Consider: Compassion Fatigue 

While selfless helping is noble, psychology also warns of the importance of setting boundaries. A person who continuously gives without considering their own capacity risks experiencing:

 

- Emotional Burnout: Exhaustion from constant outflow of psychological energy without replenishment.

- Messiah Complex: A belief that they must save everyone, which can become an unhealthy psychological burden.

 

Conclusion:

In psychology, not expecting rewards does not mean receiving nothing in return. Instead, it indicates excellent mental health, where a person’s happiness is no longer dependent on the reactions of the external world but on their own integrity. Good deeds may not always return in the same form, but they will "come back" as peace of mind for the doer.

Does man have the power to claim his efforts if God does in reality

 Hi, today I would like to share about the interesting topic, namely "  Does man have the power to claim his efforts if God does in reality?", The reason I choose this topic is because many people feel proud of what they do and quickly feel desperate easily if what they do does not meet expectations. If we learn about the concept of religious determinism (destiny) and human agency (effort), In fact, humans are only God's tools, while the power of intention to do it comes from humans themselves, when human believe what they do comes from what they effort, at that condition human will lose its power because human deliberately take an authority from God's will, I don't recommend if I were you because this kind of responsibility is truly hard, my question is "how can human take authority from God to claim what they do is 100% belong to theirs?"...so I will answer that question, human only have authority around 20% whereas the end results 80% comes from destiny, it's Pareto law, now we talk about In psychology, the main focus is not on the theological truth of such destiny, but rather on how beliefs about destiny or effort that can influence human mental health and behavior.

 

Here are several psychological perspectives to analyze this phenomenon:

 

1. Locus of Control

Psychologist Julian Rotter introduced the concept of Locus of Control to explain where a person feels the control over their life comes from:

 

- Internal: The belief that life outcomes are determined by one's own decisions and efforts.

- External: The belief that life is determined by external forces (fate, luck, or destiny).

 

Psychologically, claiming effort outcomes as "one's own" (internal) builds self-efficacy (belief in one's abilities). However, if taken to an extreme, this can trigger severe stress or depression when facing failure, as a person will blame themselves entirely.

 

2. Psychological Effects of "Surrender"

In positive psychology, the view that the final outcome is in God's hands (destiny) serves as a very strong coping mechanism:

 

- Emotional Regulation: When a person has done their utmost but the result is not as expected, attributing it to destiny prevents the collapse of self-esteem. It acts as a "safety valve" so that humans do not feel existentially failed.

- Acceptance: Understanding that there are variables beyond human control (such as the global economy, weather, or other people's decisions) helps a person maintain mental stability.

 

3. Tension Between Process and Outcome

Modern psychology, such as Carol Dweck's Growth Mindset theory, suggests that humans should claim the process, not just the outcome.

 

- Claiming Effort: Humans have the right (and psychological need) to claim their hard work, discipline, and perseverance. This is a controllable area.

- Letting Go of Outcomes: Letting go of claims over the final outcome (outcome = destiny) actually frees humans from excessive anxiety (performance anxiety).

 

4. Self-Serving Bias

There is a cognitive tendency where humans tend to claim success as the result of their own hard work, but attribute failure to "destiny" or "bad luck".

 

Psychologically, healthy integration means acknowledging the role of effort in achieving success (for motivation), while still maintaining humility that there are external factors (destiny) that enable those efforts to bear fruit.

 

Conclusion

From a psychological perspective, humans need to claim their efforts to maintain motivation and personal responsibility. However, letting go of claims over the final outcome to destiny is a very healthy way to maintain mental health, avoid arrogance when successful, and prevent despair when failing.

How to find meaning in Victor Frank L's logotherapy theory

  Hi, today I would like to share about the interesting topic, namely "How to find meaning in Victor Frank L's logotherapy theory", the main reason why I choose that topic because many people can't get a good insight from reality that they engaged with, based on what I observed, people who only pursue their wants, they must be ready to get suffering from their wants, In this modern era, there are many mental trainings at seminars to educate the public, In the event, there was a lot of training aimed at changing mindsets and habits, but not all participants could find meaning because it takes longer time, some events try to apply Viktor Frankl's theory and educate all the participants how to make exit strategy from what they suffer, Searching for meaning does require difficulty so that humans can reach a more valuable level of awareness, Victor said "the meaning already exists out there; we just need to find it", by taking Viktor Frankl with his Logotherapy at seminar, hopefully the participants can focuse on finding meaning through suffering, work, and love, for your information, besides Victor Frankl's perception about the meaning of life purpose, there are other psychology figures who offer different perspectives on how humans find purpose in their lives.

 

Here are some other major perspectives: 

1. Abraham Maslow: Self-Actualization and Peak Experiences

For Maslow, life meaning is not only found through suffering but also through the fulfillment of one’s full potential.

 

- Self-Actualization: Meaning exists when a person becomes the best version of themselves.

- Peak Experiences: Extraordinary moments such as being immersed in artistic beauty, achieving great success, or feeling connected with nature. These moments provide a sense of meaningful "being."

 

2. Irvin Yalom: Four Existential Concerns

Yalom takes a slightly different approach. He argues that humans must confront four harsh facts of life to find authentic meaning:

 

- Death, Freedom, Isolation, and Meaninglessness.

- According to Yalom, life essentially has no pre-determined meaning structure. We are the ones who must create meaning ourselves through active engagement in life (altruism, creativity, or dedication to an idea).

 

3. Carl Rogers: The Good Life (Fully Functioning Life)

As a humanist figure, Rogers views life meaning not as an end goal but as a process.

 

- Meaning is found when a person lives in alignment with their inner experiences (congruence).

- Fully functioning people are those who are open to new experiences, live in the present moment (presence), and trust their own instincts and decisions.

 

4. Alfred Adler: Social Interest

Adler argues that true life meaning is always social in nature.

 

- Lifestyle: Each person has a "fictional final goal" they strive for.

- Contribution: Meaning is found when a person feels useful to their community. Without a sense of connection to others, humans will experience feelings of inferiority that make life feel empty.

 

5. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi: The Concept of Flow

From a Positive Psychology perspective, meaning is often found in activities that make us lose track of time.

 

- Total Engagement: When you do something challenging yet matched to your skills, you enter a flow state.

- A sense of meaning emerges from deep satisfaction when we are fully engaged in productive work or a hobby.

 

Figure Primary Source of Meaning Core Perspective 

Viktor Frankl -> Discovery, Meaning already exists out there; we just need to find it. 

Irvin Yalom -> Creation, Life is empty; we must paint meaning into it. 

Alfred Adler -> Contribution, Meaning is how much we benefit others. 

Abraham Maslow -> Growth, Meaning is becoming the best version of yourself.